Anger is an emotion felt by everyone from time to time. It is a primary and natural emotion. Mild anger may be brought about feeling stressed, tired or annoyed about a particular situation in life. It can also be caused if our basic human needs are not fulfilled, such as sleep, shelter, food, drink or sex. Anger can also be a secondary emotion caused by feeling frightened, sad, lonely or threatened. Short-temper is an anger outburst, where you lose your patience quickly after an anger-stimulus.
Expression of temper
Anger is expressed differently by different people. There are many signs of anger, some verbal and others that are non-verbal. This emotion is not just a state-of-mind, it can also cause physiological changes. These changes include, increased blood pressure, increased heart rate, rise in the levels of hormones like adrenaline that triggers the flight or fight response. Long-term anger and short temper can thus be detrimental to the health and well-being of the individual. Anger is expressed through body language, staring, frowning, clenching fists and looking physically bigger or intimidating. Usually most of us can manage our anger, however, if people may not be able to then anger management may be required.
Reasons for anger onset
When you are short-tempered you may undergo physiological and psychological changes rapidly and often. There are some mechanisms in place to cope with your anger. Notice the following:
- Your body’s fight or flight response
- Tense muscles
- Clenched jaw
- Increased heart rate
- Sweating and Shaking
- Sadness or Depression
Once you notice that your body is triggering anger then you can begin to cope with it. The first step is however to monitor your triggers and outbursts. Some common triggers for anger include feeling out of control, feeling manipulated or making mistakes.
How to cope with the anger outburst?
If you figure out the trigger that cause you to feel angry then it is best to avoid them. For instance, if you suffer from a lack of sleep or insomnia, and have to go to work early in the morning. Try to choose a job that starts later in the day or adopt a sleeping routine where you don’t watch any screens for an hour before bedtime. If getting yelled at by a parent can trigger your anger, then take yourself out of the situation. Maybe take a walk when the yelling starts and resume the conversation once both of you have calmed down. Meditation can also be helpful for people that suffer from short temper, as it can help regulate your emotions.